I am now nearing that time where it is inevitable that residency programs will google me and likely find this blog, so I think it is in everyone's best interest that I preface what you will find here with some brief context.
"Skipping Through the Old City Fountain" chronicles my experiences during medical school, from year 1 to now, year 4, after my graduation from Harvard in 2008. It is a labour of love... not really a labour, maybe just love. It has provided opportunity for me to develop my writing, which I will happily say has progressed nicely over the years. It has also been a forum for the expression of my deepest reflections on the various steps involved in the transformation from lay-student to medical professional. My passions, my frustrations, insights and even more personal, non-medical revelations and evolving philosophies are contained herein.
I didn't always know I wanted to be an Obstetrician-Gynecologist -this realization came with time and experience. I originally thought I wanted to be a family physician, while focusing on women's health, deliveries, sexual health, as well as primary care psychiatry and palliative care. But as I discovered how I loved the OR, how I loved the bread and butter of Obstetrics & Gynecology, and could not tolerate some other aspects of family practice, I changed my mind. Medical school allows us to do this, especially as it changes even who we are, right through to our souls. The training of future physicians is a fully transformative experience, full of beauty, trauma, ideals shattering in complex realities, allowing us to form a new vision and concept of who we are and what our role will be in truly making this world a better place.
I have detailed my experiences in the classroom setting, as a clerk rotating through various specialities, and most importantly, the touching stories of patients who mirror our own existential dilemmas. Our love for them and our love for the profession facilitates our own metamorphosis.
I have done my utmost to protect the confidentiality of patients -I do not say in which hospitals I was working, nor the names or particulars of patients. Sometimes, I have even modified context or details to ensure their protection. Any frustrations or generalities that I have expressed regarding the less palatable personalities or approaches that we see in medicine, I realize full-well are not actually particular to this field (saints and demons abound in any profession, and all kinds in between!). I have allowed myself a position of vulnerability and imperfection, because that is in fact the true nature of the human condition.
I feel that I have learned so much through medical school and I can say with full sincerity that I am very grateful to McGill for giving me the opportunity to become a doctor. To practice medicine is an honour and a privilege -our training cannot be perfect because human institutions are bound to be fallible. I can appreciate all the good that was there, and the good that it did me. The challenges probably did me an even greater service, so I am grateful for those as well. My greatest hope, perhaps too lofty, was that in sharing these experiences with solely family and friends initially and now the vast, diverse population that may have surfed their way onto these shores, others could learn from my experiences as well. Or at least feel that they are not alone in these fundamentally human struggles.
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Toeing the Line: the Personal Patient
They say doctors make the worst patients. I thought that was mostly right from what I observed in my own colleagues, or physicians who come in as patients or as the patient's next of kin. But not for me. Of course not. Obviously, I was the exception to the rule. In fact, I thought I did a darn good job of being the "good" patient when they discovered the retinal tear a few months ago and had to laser ablate. I was stoic in the face of a scary and painful procedure, I didn't complain, I accepted the recommended treatment, with a few questions, but not too many. I may have even succeeded.
But God forbid that any of my nearest and dearest should get sick. A mama bear I didn't even know existed just comes growling out, annoyingly second-guessing, researching all the options, insisting on thoroughly investigating -partly protective, partly because "there's no way I'm having their blood on my hands". I felt so responsible -perhaps, more responsible than I should have. I called everyone I knew for help and advice, I read various articles and paid heed to stats that I would dismiss if it was myself. When it's me, I just let it all go and trust the system, trust my doc. It's too much energy not to and I'm already stressed about everything that's happening. But if it's my grandmother, or my friend or anyone I'm close to, I worry, I research, I advocate and make sure anyone I know who might be able to help is also on board, and if I can't be there to speak up for my loved-one, then I will provide the necessary information for them to advocate for themself, even if it means I may be alarming them more than necessary. Medics are hypochondriacs, notoriously. But we've all heard those stories of the sister who insisted on one more test, or the son who pushed for a second opinion, and ended up saving the life of a brother and a father. No such heroism in my case, but better safe than sorry, right.
It's an instinct that develops in the process of becoming a doctor, I suppose. I never really thought about what's at stake. When we get involved, we are putting our personal relationships on the line. We are risking everything that matters most in life -love, family, friends. This is the stuff they tell you is the only thing that matters when you die. That's what we're prepared to give up -we are ready to sell our own souls. Their lives are more important than friendship, bonds, intimate promises. None of that matters -we love them enough to lose them, but at least we did our best by them. Sometimes we choose not to, deferring to superiors, colleagues, especially when we are out of our depth. That's when you hear the line about doctors not treating friends and family -it's even a law. But we cannot help advocating for them -isn't that our duty? And we know the worst possible scenario, and we'll be damned if it's not ruled out. It's easy to forget that part of our training which teaches us about the limits of testing and imaging and screening, that it's all a balance of probabilities. Like who cares if there's only a 1% chance that this particular situation is that deadly condition -my loved one is not going to be that 1% and you better darn well see to it that they are as far away as possible from that 1% chance.
We are no longer reasonable. But sometimes that's how lives are saved. And other times, maybe we cross a line and boundaries blur, as you wonder suddenly whether this person has become your patient or whether they are still your friend and which hat should you be wearing? Of course they mostly just need your love and support, a hand to hold. But who will advocate for them if not you? Certainly nobody else. A tricky balance indeed.
Perhaps the answer lies in release and untethering. None of us has ultimate control. We say our medical bit, we give our kisses and warmth and then we should powerfully choose to go sit in the backseat. It was never in our hands anyway.
But God forbid that any of my nearest and dearest should get sick. A mama bear I didn't even know existed just comes growling out, annoyingly second-guessing, researching all the options, insisting on thoroughly investigating -partly protective, partly because "there's no way I'm having their blood on my hands". I felt so responsible -perhaps, more responsible than I should have. I called everyone I knew for help and advice, I read various articles and paid heed to stats that I would dismiss if it was myself. When it's me, I just let it all go and trust the system, trust my doc. It's too much energy not to and I'm already stressed about everything that's happening. But if it's my grandmother, or my friend or anyone I'm close to, I worry, I research, I advocate and make sure anyone I know who might be able to help is also on board, and if I can't be there to speak up for my loved-one, then I will provide the necessary information for them to advocate for themself, even if it means I may be alarming them more than necessary. Medics are hypochondriacs, notoriously. But we've all heard those stories of the sister who insisted on one more test, or the son who pushed for a second opinion, and ended up saving the life of a brother and a father. No such heroism in my case, but better safe than sorry, right.
It's an instinct that develops in the process of becoming a doctor, I suppose. I never really thought about what's at stake. When we get involved, we are putting our personal relationships on the line. We are risking everything that matters most in life -love, family, friends. This is the stuff they tell you is the only thing that matters when you die. That's what we're prepared to give up -we are ready to sell our own souls. Their lives are more important than friendship, bonds, intimate promises. None of that matters -we love them enough to lose them, but at least we did our best by them. Sometimes we choose not to, deferring to superiors, colleagues, especially when we are out of our depth. That's when you hear the line about doctors not treating friends and family -it's even a law. But we cannot help advocating for them -isn't that our duty? And we know the worst possible scenario, and we'll be damned if it's not ruled out. It's easy to forget that part of our training which teaches us about the limits of testing and imaging and screening, that it's all a balance of probabilities. Like who cares if there's only a 1% chance that this particular situation is that deadly condition -my loved one is not going to be that 1% and you better darn well see to it that they are as far away as possible from that 1% chance.
We are no longer reasonable. But sometimes that's how lives are saved. And other times, maybe we cross a line and boundaries blur, as you wonder suddenly whether this person has become your patient or whether they are still your friend and which hat should you be wearing? Of course they mostly just need your love and support, a hand to hold. But who will advocate for them if not you? Certainly nobody else. A tricky balance indeed.
Perhaps the answer lies in release and untethering. None of us has ultimate control. We say our medical bit, we give our kisses and warmth and then we should powerfully choose to go sit in the backseat. It was never in our hands anyway.
Saturday, November 12, 2011
Uncertain Times & Banal Wanderings of a Festinating Soul
There comes a point in a medical student's life where it all gets to be a little much. Even after being a part of the most exquisite wedding in the UAE, desert safaris, ascending towers, watching fountains dance, alight in the night to passionate opera-like music or with local belly-dance flair. You come back to reality. And that reality is more pressure than you've ever felt in your life, threatening to boil over, burst through your pores, your mouth, your eyes, like a fiery volcano. But it's not just the pressure of everything you have to do, it's also the uncertainty about where it's all going... none of which is in your control.
And then, the real icing on the cake, you're stuck in geriatrics. Enough said. Old people need doctors and special care tailored to their needs. But they also need doctors who really love doing just that. For better or for worse, I am not one of them. If it was palliative care, no problem -I like their philosophy and their approach. But regular old-people medicine? So not my thing. I really just want to run to labour and delivery, or the NICU or the nursery for a breath of fresh air. Or talk about contraception and safe sex with some teenager. It's all just a week away, until I'm back where I belong. But until then, I'm stuck in a veritable hell. They are dying okay, or at least most of my patients are. Yet we delay consulting palliative care. We force them into the futility of physio, nutrition, long-term care placement, etc. And for what? I say, consult palliative care now before they're gasping for that last oxygen-full. Let them embark on that existential journey we all deserve at least a chance at, before we die. Let them live their last days or weeks or maybe even months (not likely), in comfort, without someone constantly nagging at them to eat and walk, drawing bloods, stethoscopes. I mean, seriously. Everyone is suffering, suffering, suffering. And we're doing diddley-doo about the most important suffering here, which is the family and the patient's psychological suffering and ensuing demoralization.
I realize I am not the authority. I'm a medical student so maybe it's not my place. But I have learned this. When you truly dislike your work, those are the most exhausting days. We are doctors trained to work long hours, not sleep, not eat and passionately be little medical energizer bunnies. That is changing only very slowly. In the meanwhile, you will be happy to know that when you find what you love, the madness of this philosophy is only half as crazy as you originally thought, and you will happily go through all this in the name of what you enjoy. But put me on a geriatrics ward for a morning and I am beat -physically, psychologically, emotionally.
I miss my women and their babies. I miss the OR terribly. I just want to practice knots and ultrasound. Or share in the tragedy of the occasional miscarriage. That's not an easy job either. But I enjoy it and would gladly give up so much more than geriatrics may have technically ever asked of me. It doesn't matter. I am learning, I am busy, but there is no fire and the undercurrent is boredom. In Parkinson's, individuals develop a festinating gait, defined as "a manner of walking in which a person's speed increases in an unconscious effort to "catch up" with a displaced center of gravity". Geriatrics festinates my spirit -the only way to find my center will be to get out. It has been the longest rotation of my life and in all honesty, I can't wait for it to be over and never go back.
And then, the real icing on the cake, you're stuck in geriatrics. Enough said. Old people need doctors and special care tailored to their needs. But they also need doctors who really love doing just that. For better or for worse, I am not one of them. If it was palliative care, no problem -I like their philosophy and their approach. But regular old-people medicine? So not my thing. I really just want to run to labour and delivery, or the NICU or the nursery for a breath of fresh air. Or talk about contraception and safe sex with some teenager. It's all just a week away, until I'm back where I belong. But until then, I'm stuck in a veritable hell. They are dying okay, or at least most of my patients are. Yet we delay consulting palliative care. We force them into the futility of physio, nutrition, long-term care placement, etc. And for what? I say, consult palliative care now before they're gasping for that last oxygen-full. Let them embark on that existential journey we all deserve at least a chance at, before we die. Let them live their last days or weeks or maybe even months (not likely), in comfort, without someone constantly nagging at them to eat and walk, drawing bloods, stethoscopes. I mean, seriously. Everyone is suffering, suffering, suffering. And we're doing diddley-doo about the most important suffering here, which is the family and the patient's psychological suffering and ensuing demoralization.
I realize I am not the authority. I'm a medical student so maybe it's not my place. But I have learned this. When you truly dislike your work, those are the most exhausting days. We are doctors trained to work long hours, not sleep, not eat and passionately be little medical energizer bunnies. That is changing only very slowly. In the meanwhile, you will be happy to know that when you find what you love, the madness of this philosophy is only half as crazy as you originally thought, and you will happily go through all this in the name of what you enjoy. But put me on a geriatrics ward for a morning and I am beat -physically, psychologically, emotionally.
I miss my women and their babies. I miss the OR terribly. I just want to practice knots and ultrasound. Or share in the tragedy of the occasional miscarriage. That's not an easy job either. But I enjoy it and would gladly give up so much more than geriatrics may have technically ever asked of me. It doesn't matter. I am learning, I am busy, but there is no fire and the undercurrent is boredom. In Parkinson's, individuals develop a festinating gait, defined as "a manner of walking in which a person's speed increases in an unconscious effort to "catch up" with a displaced center of gravity". Geriatrics festinates my spirit -the only way to find my center will be to get out. It has been the longest rotation of my life and in all honesty, I can't wait for it to be over and never go back.
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